Therapy for Attachment Concerns

Therapy for Attachments

What is an Attachment?

Attachment isn’t just about childhood—it follows us into adulthood, shaping how we connect, trust, and navigate relationships. Whether you find yourself anxiously seeking reassurance, avoiding closeness, or stuck in patterns that leave you feeling disconnected, attachment wounds can impact both personal well-being and relationships. The good news? Attachment patterns aren’t set in stone, and therapy can help you rewrite the script.

How and Where Does It Show Up?

In individual therapy, attachment concerns often surface as struggles with self-worth, difficulty setting boundaries, or patterns of pushing people away while secretly wanting connection. In couples therapy, it can look like cycles of miscommunication, emotional distance, or the classic “why do we keep having the same argument?” moment. These patterns aren’t random—they’re deeply rooted in how we learned (or didn’t learn) to feel safe in relationships.

What Are Our Approaches? How Can Therapy Help?

We see attachment through a systemic lens, meaning we explore the bigger picture—your experiences, culture, relationships, and personal history—because healing doesn’t happen in isolation. Our work, at Talking Distance, is tailored to your unique needs, ensuring therapy is culturally responsive, trauma-informed, and meets you where you are. Whether you need space to process old wounds or tools to build more secure relationships, we work collaboratively to help you feel more connected and at ease in your relationships (including the one with yourself).

FAQs: About Attachments & Therapy

Is my attachment style permanent?

Nope! While attachment patterns run deep, they can shift with awareness, effort, and supportive relationships (including therapy). Change is absolutely possible!

Do I have to talk about my childhood?

Only if it’s helpful to you! While attachment begins early, therapy focuses on what’s relevant to your current relationships and well-being. We won’t make you dig through old baby albums – unless you really want to.

Can attachment therapy help if I’m single?

Yes! Attachment impacts all relationships, not just romantic ones. This work can help improve friendships, family dynamics, and most importantly – your relationship with yourself.

My partner and I have different attachment styles. Are we doomed?

Not at all. Different styles can create challenges, but with awareness and communication, couples can learn to meet each other’s needs in a way that fosters security and connection.

How long does attachment therapy take?

It depends in your goals and needs. Some clients see changes in a few months, while others take longer to deeply unpack and heal attachment wounds. There’s no rush – just the right pace for you.